Do not rush this process- People often want to prevent and solve problems before they even appear.
Write down all ideas, even the ones that seem absurd or bizarre.
If moving is no option, then you simply need to accept the English weather. There’s no reason for getting unhappy about things we cannot change. If you’ve had such a major life event, just think about that when you face everyday problems. If you’ve never experienced such a major life event, just think about what it would mean if you lost a loved one, or if you got seriously ill (I know this is terrible to imagine, so just do it in the beginning to help you put things in perspective.)Grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem. And the real problems can help us grow as a person.
So, this kills approximately 40% of all our problems. So there are no more problems per se, there are only challenges. So, in the end we may ask: Are there even real problems?
It’s always too hot, or too cold, or too fucking humid or windy…So, if the train is running late, there is no bloody reason to get upset about that. Trust me, this trick kills many so called problems. They’re just like nasty ants that can be shaken off. As long as you grow as a person you’ll see that there are less and less problems in life.
Next time you come across an unwelcoming situation, before you get pissed off, ask yourself: The point is: Most of our problems are not really a big thing, so when we just think about it for a second, we realize that there’s no reason to get angry, annoyed, frustrated, stressed etc…We are bigger than our problems. All these everyday problems are tiny, tiny small now. At some point, there won’t be any problems, just challenges.
Doubt and negative thoughts form quickly: "What if I haven't made the right choice? Make a list of these issues and define why each one is a problem to you.
Focus on behaviors rather than on yourself or a person (Incorrect example: "The problem is that I am stupid.") (Correct example: "The problem is that I easily allow others to betray or disappoint me, because I trust people too quickly.").
Try to define your goals specifically, while making them as realistic and attainable as possible.
An example of a poor or broad goal is "I want to be happy." First, define what happiness means to you and what you can do to feel happier overall.