And it turns kids into driven, self-starters finishers.
But bedtime was coming up and they still didn’t return the pillows to their beds, despite you asking them to do it.
It’s tempting to go into their room and do it yourself.
Saving kids from their responsibilities paints an unrealistic view of what really happens. I’ve found that my kids are more driven to finish a task when they’re motivated by its final results, more so than through threats, punishment or nagging.
They won’t want to finish tasks in the future if they don’t even realize what actually happens if they don’t. Yes, they might finish a task if we insert a threat or a nag, but they’ll do so begrudgingly.
They miss out on key lessons, like developing self-motivation, a love of learning and doing a job well.
Rather than the dire results your kids will face, focus instead on positive ones.Let him sleep in a messy bed and wash his own plate and utensils before eating breakfast the next morning.We shouldn’t save our kids from every struggle, especially with finishing tasks they’re responsible for.None of this would register if you’d finished the tasks and saved them from the consequences. Let him answer to his teacher and experience a less-than-expected grade.Did he not wash all the dishes, or made his bed haphazardly?So don’t take over that class assignment, or determine how they do their chores.Instead, allow them to decide what to do and how, so long as they tick off the requirements that need to be done. Let’s say your kids thought it’d be a riot to toss their pillows on the floor during one of their play times together.So, how can we get kids to actually important tasks they need to complete? The chores we swore they’d be responsible for remain undone.First, let’s back track and examine a typical conversation between parents and kids. And we point out all the ways they’re time they’ll follow through and finish.After all, they’ll be motivated to finish a task they got to make most decisions on. We’re scared they’ll mess up, do a project wrong, or completely botch a task.Maybe that’s letting your kids fix their bed however way they want, or not taking over his school projects and crafts (you can always tell which were the ones parents did! But kids crave that control and the ability to make choices.